Food Play:  An Informal List of Terms


by Enchantrix Rachel of

Are you curious about food play? You are knowledgeable about your own kinks, but do you wonder what else is out there?  Are you confused about the distinctions?  This is an informal glossary of terms, which means that it isn’t meant to be exhaustive.  However, it will, at least, give you some trail heads from whence to launch further exploration.

Sitophilia:  The formal term for “food fetish.”  This term is a good umbrella, because it leaves room for interpretation as to the situation, the type of interaction with the food, and the food or type of food itself.  I suppose it’s not much different from simply saying “food fetish,” which can have the same general (erotic) connotation. But if you want to get nerdy about it at a cocktail party, now you’ll know the term!

Food Items for the Trifecta

WAM:  a.k.a. Wet And Messy. This refers to the erotic sensation of covering yourself in wet and/or messy materials.  It can include applying them to someone else.  And it can also include watching it done to others, or all of the above.

WAM is a term you will often find associated with the practice of sitophilia. Remember, many practitioners choose food items for their versatility. That is, one can safely transition from drenching a playmate’s body in a bucket of chocolate sauce to engaging in oral sex or oral body worship. In addition, because the attraction to a particular item often involves not just how it feels, but the combination of how it feels, tastes, and smells, food items are a natural choice for this trifecta. Most devotees of the fetish require nothing more than that the item in question is what it sounds like: wet and/or messy. Conversely, some are only turned on by the use of a particular type of food, like pie.

The Amount is Key

Splosh(er): A splosher, or someone into sploshing, is a colloquial term for those interested in the WAM fetish. As such, you can use it interchangeably with WAM. Conventional wisdom suggests that the term splosh came before WAM. At the same time, some say that “splosh” originated in the U.K., whereas the term WAM is more of an American construct.

Note that one is not necessarily into WAM or splosh simply because they like to incorporate food into their erotic fun once in a while. There is a definite connection between this/these fetishes and the amount of the chosen substance used. WAM/splosh pretty directly indicates being drenched or covered in large quantities of what ever it is that arouses the object and subject. Think dumping a five-gallon bucket of chocolate sauce on someone, rather than drizzling a bit on a lady’s nipples before breast worship.

The Sensuality of Feeding, Eating, and Watching

Feederism: This fetish may be encountered in sitophilic circles, though it’s more peripherally than directly related. In this case, the vector for arousal is the act of feeding another or being fed for the purpose of gaining weight rather than the food itself.  However, the sensuality of eating and watching someone enjoy food, as well as selecting, preparing, and offering the food, is part of the allure for many who engage.  So  that does provide a connection.

Experience this fetish carefully, with certain limits and boundaries in place. Even though many engage in it as part of Fat Acceptance and in a fully consensual and considered way, it can lead to or exacerbate compulsive and addictive behavior. Keep in mind that obesity has attendant health problems, not that everyone who is fat is unhealthy. Sometimes feederism is not 100% consensual. Remember, safe fun and D/s etiquette requires that it involves two consenting adults. Fetishes should not seriously threaten or damage the current or long term health or physical well-being of either practitioner.

Living Sushi Platter

Nyotaimori: This is the Japanese term for the practice of serving sushi off of the naked body of a woman. When the “living sushi platter” is male, the term is nantamori. Sushi is not the fetish here. This is for those interested in humiliation through dehumanization. For example, practitioners of the human furniture fetish might also be interested in serving in this capacity. The motionlessness, de-personification, and servitude inherent in this practice is fertile ground for kink. Not to mention, yet another way to play with food in an erotic manner.  Use your imagination. Other cultures use the human food platter, as well, albeit with different foods.  But as far as I know, the Japanese are the only ones who have an actual name for it.

Homemade Options

Francesco Morackini (1980-): is an (apparently kinky) Austrian designer and artist who created the first home dildo maker. Phallic foods are popular in food play situations, as is.  They penetrate well and can substitute for a dildo.  This tool turns already phallic foods into even more realistic-looking fuck tools.

Melon Baller:  This employs the use of an archaic term for fucking to make a play on words. I have to admit that I haven’t seen this practice referred to in this way. Although, I have seen “melon fucker” in popular use. I’ve decided that this is the best term for someone who cuts a hole in a melon just big enough for their cock, hollows out a bit of the inside, and fucks it or masturbates with it like a homemade fleshlight.  I’m not sure how popular this practice really is, but I think it’s ingenious. To be honest,  I’ve facilitated sessions with melon ballers more than once here at LDW.

As I said, this is by no means an exhaustive list. But these are the most commonly-used terms. I thought they might be useful for those interested in food play to know or investigate. The grocery store just got a whole lot more interesting!

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